Unless you are one of those incredibly mature couples who fell out of love but remain best friends, there is likely to be some conflict in your divorce. The more you disagree, the more of an effect it will have on you and your children if you have any.
There are measures you can take to reduce the potential for conflict:
Choose a no-fault divorce
In Virginia, you can choose to file for a no-fault divorce, which means you do not need to give specific grounds. To do so, you must live apart for at least one year, although if there are no children involved, the waiting period can be reduced to half a year if you reach an agreement on certain things.
The alternative would require you to prove your partner did something wrong. Proving fault can lead to conflict. For example, you allege your partner slept with someone else, but they deny it. Finding evidence to prove your point could be damaging for both of you and could bring old wounds to the surface. Choosing a no-fault divorce allows you to draw a line under the past.
Choosing negotiation rather than litigation
There are two main ways to divorce. You can fight about it through litigation or try and reach an agreement about things. When you choose litigation, it is the judge who will decide on your future. If you select negotiation, you get more of a say.
Your attorney can negotiate with your spouse’s attorney, or the four of you can sit around the table together. You could even use a third-party mediator. You need to decide how you will split your assets, how you work out child custody and any financial support given between you.
If negotiation fails, you can take your divorce to court and fight for what you want. A Front Royal divorce attorney who is skilled at both negotiation and litigation can guide you through your divorce.