When co-parenting after divorce, you can expect to disagree with your ex-spouse every now and again. While there’s no way to completely avoid disputes, there’s nothing wrong with attempting to do so.
Here are three things you can do to help avoid disputes before they start:
- Communicate: Many co-parenting disputes are the result of a lack of communication. If you don’t talk, there’s a greater chance of something slipping through the cracks that eventually results in an argument. Find a way to clearly and effectively communicate and do your best to stay in touch as necessary.
- Don’t turn every disagreement into an argument: There will be times when you don’t agree with your ex-spouse. And that’s okay. When possible, let this roll off your back without a second thought. As long as it doesn’t affect the well-being of you and/or your children, you should do your best to ignore it. Don’t turn every small disagreement into a major argument. Doing so won’t get you anywhere.
- Fall back on your parenting plan: When you have children with your imminent ex-spouse, one of the most important parts of the divorce process is the creation of a parenting plan. This is designed to provide guidance for both parents after divorce. For example, it will outline who has physical custody. For the non-custodial parent, it includes a visitation schedule. When you’re not seeing eye to eye, fall back on your parenting plan for guidance.
Along with the above, there’s one last thing to remember. You must get onboard with the idea of making the most of co-parenting. If you’re always looking for a fight, you’ll find it. And when you do, it will result in stress that you just don’t need.
If you’re doing your best to avoid co-parenting disputes but your ex isn’t taking the same approach, talk to them about your feelings and how to get back on track. Letting them know how you feel may be all it takes to bring calm to your post-divorce relationship.
In the event that your ex doesn’t think they have to obey the parenting plan, consider your legal rights to seek a modification.