Divorce can get confusing enough on its own. The last thing you need is a myth getting in the way and skewing your perception of the process.
Unfortunately, people do buy into these myths all the time, and they can lead to some serious mistakes. Here are a few myths you want to watch out for:
- Half of marriages end up in divorce. This is so commonly repeated that many people think it’s a fact, but it’s not. The divorce rate changes all the time. The 50% stat comes from a prediction made in the 70s. That was 50 years ago.
- Divorce should be considered a failure. This is simply not true. For instance, if your spouse has a drinking problem and spends all the money on alcohol, is it really a “failure” on your part to end the relationship? Of course not. Thinking like this is not productive.
- There are ways to have a divorce-proof marriage. You can’t guarantee you’ll never get divorced for one simple reason: You only control your own actions. You can’t control your spouse. Divorce happens, even to those who never expected it.
- Mothers always get preferential treatment in child custody cases. Things have changed. Fathers routinely get more time with the children than they used to. Courts have adapted, recognizing that it is in the best interests of the children to see both parents, not just the mother.
These are just four of the many myths making the rounds. They help to show you how common they are and what problems they can pose. They also show why it’s so important to do your research every step of the way.